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I Found My Husband On Dating & Hookup Sites, Is He Cheating? a Dear Allie,. My husband and I Since then, I have caught him on porn sites, dating sites, F*ckbook, live porn shows, and this & that. I have seen “[Cams dot com]”on our Secondly, a cheater will ALWAYS deny, deny, deny! Getting defensive is a good. If i was in a realionship and i found out my spouse strayed, thats it.. Once a cheater, always a cheater. He made an account on a dating website! The man you are married to is doing this!! I wonder if he's met anyone off that site.. I know im blunt, but ask him why he's in this site. Watch how he answers, it'll tell the story there. 13 Jun Online dating websites offer opportunities for men to connect with other men and women. Dating sites are portable, and men can access the database from any.
The good, bad and sometimes ugly. Check out Mumsnet's Relationships pages for advice on all sides of family life. Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. Hello, My husband has always read article a bit of a night owl been together 21 years and have 2 DC Recently I got a strange feeling something was going on. This morning I went on his laptop and looked at 'history' and it is full of 'No strings dating' and he has been talking to 'Becky, 22 Linc' etc.
I don't think he has actually done anything cos he rarely goes out in the evening, but he has plenty of opportunity during the day to leave work for an hour or 2.
I'm still in shock.
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I've emailed him letting him know he's been rumbled and waiting for his reply. How would My Husband Is Always On Hookup Sites handle this? Please tell me what you would do if you were me. Hello If I was you I would do exactly what you have done so far, but I would ask him to come home asap and ask him to explain.
Try and stay calm and logical. Your gut feeling will probably tell you if he has been unfaithful and then you need to decide how best to move forward - Relate is often reccommended by MNetters. I need to go out now but I'm sure there will be other help and advice along v soon.
As pp said go with your gut instinct. My DP goes on them occasionally but I know he's not cheated. A lot of people will tell you to leave him, but do what is right for you and DCs. I know DP goes on them, although I don't like them sites the more I complain about them the more he uses them Wait for his reply and go from there. Mulled wine why are you putting up with that That is just so sad, you don't see yourself as worth more than tha. Sorry op I am, and 22!! She must be at least half is age eugh.
I think you need to keep calm and try and see if you can find anything else. He might not admit to stuff you can't prove. Wait and see what he says and then try to look at the whole picture, not just what you've found out in isolation - ie has he otherwise always been a read article husband over the last 21 years?
He Free Online Hookup Sites Fort Mcmurray well not have been unfaithful in the physical sense. Lots of people have a look a those websites out of curiosity, boredom, for the thrill, whatever, and even get chatting to people.
I'm not saying it's ok to do that. But IMO if that's all that's happened, he needs to realise he's betrayed your trust and been a silly boy, and there's a lot of grovelling he needs to do, but I don't think it's worth breaking up a family over.
It's one hell of a step further to actually meet somebody in RL, and obviously if he has done that, or was intending to, that is another matter entirely. I hope this turns out to not be as bad as it could be. My friends and I have looked at those kind of sites before - have any of us had affairs or been unfaithful? The internet makes everything so easy to access, and there's every chance he was just having a sneaky look - which isn't exactly honourable, I know, but doesn't make somebody a cheating moster either.
The reason I've not left him is because of the reasons moomoo has put, he goes on out of boredom. He is bored of My Husband Is Always On Hookup Sites so spends more and more time online with other women on dating sites, talking god knows what even though you hate it.
What has happened to this place or females in general lately, since when has his become normalised behaviour that women should just put up with, sad times. I don't think people should put up with it and am not saying it's 'normal' to spend time online with other women and neglecting your partner.
I just wanted to make the point that lots of people have a look at those sites out of curiosity, without any intention of ever having an affair. OP just found evidence of using the site on her H's history, so she doesn't know how often he's been on there, and she doesn't know if he's done anything other than look.
If my DH was regularly spending time on those kinds of sites I wouldn't like it either, and would expect him to stop. But IMO that's a very different scenario to somebody having a quick look out of curiosity or boredom as in whilst sitting at work eating your sandwiches!
Thankyou for your replies. He is in his early 50s and I'm in my late 30s and he has definately been going through a mid-life crisis My Husband Is Always On Hookup Sites we've even laughed about it. He knows I don't mind him looking at porn, but this is one step too far - even if it is for an ego boost. He emailed me back I couldn't talk to him on the phone and said it was 'just chat'. It's the going behind my back that is difficult and wondering if he is bored of me.
I know he doesn't like my body won't dare admit it. I'm size 14 with boobs ruined by breastfeeding - he likes young size 10, perky boobs etc.
We've had our problems he's been impotent for years and refused to go to doctors but I have been sooooo patient. He has gone to doctors lately and I thtought we were sorting stuff out Thankyou for your replies - I don't have anyone to talk to about this I have looked at dating sites and have looked at the one for people looking for a fling whilst being happily married.
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I am just nosy! My Dh knows I do it has even helped me get onto the married people one, laughed at me and left the room. Not all people who look at these things are looking to have an My Husband Is Always On Hookup Sites. WherecanIhide I'm sorry you've been having problems. Please don't think it could be caused by you having a body that he 'doesn't like' though! So what if you are a size 14 with norman boobs?
If he's in his 50's I doubt he's any kind of eyecandy with his clobber off either! Wouldn't we all say we like slim, young, perky, whatever, in theory. But relationships are about RL and love and accepting someone for what they are, aren't they? Don't let your perfectly normal sounding body be any kind of issue or excuse in this. He needs to talk to you and also get some medical advice re the impotence. Would he agree to some counselling if he's not too good at talking things through with you?
I meant 'normal' boobs! Would love to know if there's such thing as 'norman' boobs though. Thankyou for the reasurance MooMooFarm. I still feel like wolloping him when I see him later. I'll suggest counselling and see what happens. Maybe 'Norman' boobs have shields covering them or something. OP you said you had a look at his pc because you felt something wasn't right.
What made you look in first place? Wherecanihide Just had a thought you said he's been to the docs finally and because they're sorting 10 Hookup Free Best Top Sites out he's 'learning' about himself again??
Garrowismylaw - I know I shouldn't have snooped but I had a gut feeling something wasn't quite right. Last night can't remember what time I went downstairs cos I woke up having a panic attack so went downstairs to calm myself down and he was on his computer and pretty much ignored me. Also, I've been waking up in the night and he hasn't been in bed in the early hours.
So do you think because every time before I have let it go after a day or two that he feels like it's "really" okay even though I get upset about it at the time? He has become more communicative, loving, trusting and our arguments have stopped because he is no longer holding on to the feelings and concerns that he had. Marriage is complicated, but looks simple. But when you understand its innate dynamics marriage will bring you more happiness than any other relationship by huge degrees. I am glad you followed that course of action.
The cheeky sod has been moaning about feeling tired - I thought he couldn't sleep due to work stress! People do go on them for a flirt, it's not all meeting up. So it then depends on where link boundary is for what is cheating.
Personally I would see looking at porn as cheating too, so what I think would be irrelevant to you, so it depends where you draw the line.
I know one of the problems for people trying to actually meet someone on dating websites, is that there are lots of people that just want to email back and forth ad nauseum and not meet. Maybe if you are having issues re sex he is actually 'hiding' downstairs link order not to have to confront the problem IYSIM. I remember when DH and I had som prob I stayed up till early hours just to avoid sex, waiting for him to go to sleep first.
Looks like I'll be getting a divorce for Christmas.
I think you need to keep calm and try and see if you can find anything else. He has lost that chance with me since I already found out on my own. He does everything you can think of to do.
He phoned up half an hour ago and said said we should talk about a trial seperation - can't believe it. Feel sick to the stomach and can't believe this is happening. Oh no I'm so sorry. Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, get discounts, continue reading prizes and lots more.
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